We generalise most things in society.
Helps keep our beliefs intact.
Perfectionism is one of those things.
Like anything, when we gain clarity on what the word means and how it actually plays out in us, we can use its presence for good.
Perfectionism can be triggered by;
- Perceived excessive expectations from others
- Placing unrealistic benchmarks on ourselves
- Imposing irrational standards on others
Which apply to you? (list them)
Then there’s the issue around when perfectionism becomes a negative stress on the body, and when it becomes a motivational force to grow (a natural human need).
Maladaptive Perfectionismis when perfectionism gets in the way of happiness and success, in contract to Adaptive Perfectionismthat is healthy, and relates to high, but realistic expectations that can be dealt with compassionately if they’re not met.
(yes, compassionately. No room for the self-critic).
Which applies to you, and in which areas of life?
What do you actually ‘think’, ‘feel’, ‘believe’ and ‘do’ in the moments of maladaptive and adaptive perfectionism?
For example do you;
- People please?
- Procrastinate on important tasks?
- Shut off from others or your emotions?
- Criticise self and/ or others?
- Believe that anything less than best is lazy?
- Feel overwhelmed?
The important question though………why won’t you prioritise 20-minutes in your day to answer these questions above?
We are so used to staying in comfort, even when our happiness, wellbeing and life success is on the line, that we find something that is perceived more important in that moment of consideration. But over time, which is truly most important?
I dare you…….
Take care and be well,
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